Why I Didn't Want To Have A Debut

November 26, 2017

Before anyone assumes anything negative about this post, I would just like to say that this is in no way an expression of my discontentment and ingratitude towards everything that has happened recently in my life. It is not a secret, especially among my family and friends, that I did not want to celebrate my 18th birthday extravagantly which is why I was quick to claim that I will not be having a debut at least half a year before my 18th birthday. Here are some of the main reasons why:

  • I did not feel worthy to have my parents spend so much money on a party for me, regardless of the fact that it is indeed my 18th birthday, an extremely big deal to my family, especially to my mom as she did not get to have a debut during her time. 
  • I feel that the money to be spent on such occasion can be better put to use for other means (i.e. doing business, traveling as a family–but my mom says we already travel so much as it is).
  • I did not want to go through all the stress of debut planning. I witnessed how tedious everything was when we prepared for my sister's debut four years ago. Even though our efforts were all for a good cause, I still wanted to skip going through it all this time.
  • I did not think it would be right to inconvenience other people for my sake as I knew that planning a debut requires a huge manforce. Exhibit A: My cousins would have to take part in ensuring that everything goes well. Exhibit B: My guests would have take time out of busy schedule to dress up and attend my party. And the list go on...
Even so, I ended up giving into my mom's requests (she really, really wanted me to have a debut). This is why the big celebration happened on the 1st of October, half a month after my actual birthday–September 15th. I let her plan the whole thing with only a few minor conditions of mine.

In the end, everything was no less than perfect. I'm glad I invited people who were close to my heart, and I am forever thankful to those who came. Like I said on Snapchat when I got home after the party, "they are all gifts from God to me". I also want to quickly put it out there that I chose #LoveLois for my debut because essentially, the debut was not for me. Rather, it was for the people who played major roles in my life, and I dedicate the celebration to them, with love. I remember mentioning in my birthday speech that I would have completely missed out on such an amazing night had I not agreed to have a debut, which is true, because clearly, I was pretty much an embodiment of happiness that night.

My eyes are literally sparkling (from all the happy little tears).

Word of advice: If you're thinking of having a debut, and you have the (financial) capability to do so, GO FOR IT. One of the few things that I considered in deciding whether or not to have mine was that I surely did not want to completely let go of the opportunity to dance with my dad, my brother, my cousins, my guy friends, and Cyrill on a such a special night. After all, it's the little things that count.

Thanks for being a part of my life. Have a lovely day wherever you are, take care always, and love lots!

♡ Lois

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